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I applaud you... by Angel

...for understanding that it was not for you. Adoptees often have to bear the weight of their adoptive parents emotional wellbeing. It's entirely unfair as we did not choose to be adopted. If we need some kind of unification to heal our trauma, that is our right.

Edit: I am going to add an edit because that sounded much harsher than intended. It's no secret I am an adoptive parent, too. But you absolutely should not adopt without being open to and prepared for whatever the needs are to ensure the emotional wellbeing of the child, the one person in the adoption triad with no agency.