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by Tjmcfly (click here to email the poster) (2020-07-01 20:05:54)
Edited on 2020-07-01 22:11:09

In reply to: How do single parents do it?  posted by Chigurh

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Ive been through something remarkably similar. It's rough, but it sounds like you've got your priorities straight. Fire off an email if you feel the need.

You need to stop the drinking though. If there's one thing that's going to get in the way of your custody, it's booze. I can read it in your writing. This is one alcoholic just talking to another. You can't bullshit me and more than just a few other guys I know in this place.

I've drunkenly tried to appear sober when writing something too.

This place can be more than cathartic. It can genuinely help. Hell, the backroom is the first place I admitted I needed help before I went and got it. The support I got from strangers was uplifting enough to power me through. I'm sure it can with you too. You help those girls by helping yourself.

Thank you
by Chigurh  (2020-07-01 20:18:10)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

The crazy thing is I’ve had maybe 6 beers in the last 12 months. I basically stopped drinking when our daughter was born. I found being hungover on Saturdays wasn’t a very fun or rewarding experience for either of us. In the past I really only had the weekends with her as I was working 60+ hours a week supporting what I now know to be my wife’s drug habit. I had quit smoking because of COVID but unfortunately have picked up that again when she’s sleeping.

Hey, no judgments
by Tjmcfly  (2020-07-01 20:25:51)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

I'm not unique here. There are 4000 other folks who'd love to help.

You got dealt a shitty hand and making the best of it for them means sacrificing parts of yourself. It sucks, it's not fair, but it is what it is. I promise you this.... it's worth it in the end. My 7 and almost 11 year old can attest to the fact they are grateful I fought.