Have you considered she may actually be ill?

Have you considered she may actually be ill?
by ndtnguy (2020-07-02 13:36:41)

In reply to: How do single parents do it? posted by Chigurh

Don't let my question detract from the excellent, heartfelt advice offered below, but it sounds like your wife may actually have a psychological medical problem antecedent to her addiction: both miscarriage and childbirth can do very odd things to a woman's brain chemistry.

That's not to say that you don't need to use the judicial system to protect your child, yourself, and your savings in the circumstances. But it might be the case that the woman you love is still "in there," to speak, and might come back if you can get her the help she needs. And no, nothing about that would be easy, even if it's possible.

Just something to consider.

I should’ve read this first.

You are correct. It really does sound a lot like she’s self-medicating an underlying mental illness/trauma reaction.

Good Points

She lost her older brother in a motorcycle accident almost 15 years ago and turned to pills at the time. She stopped all that with the pregnancy and birth of her first child. It’s something I’ve considered I just don’t know how you separate the two. I have no doubt she has some mental health issues that need to be worked through, but I don’t know how you can do that while smoking meth. Myself and her parents in the past tried to get her to go to counseling but she always refused. I truly hope the old her is somewhere inside because I’d love for her to be there for both of our daughters, but she needs to be sober, happy, and healthy.

She can’t do it while she’s smoking meth.

I’m so sorry for all of you that this is happening. Keep your daughter safe, look after yourself, and hope that she seeks the help she needs, sooner rather than later. Mental health issues, trauma, addiction, shame - they are all so hard to face.

Good luck. Sincerely.