Yeah, you're being silly and foolish

and before you continue, it's only fair to point out to you that I am very familiar with how this process goes, who is involved, when a coach should be consulted, etc. One might say that I am close to this sort of situation, from a coach and a parent perspective. As a father, I would definitely consult with the head football coach, possibly a trainer (as many kids work with trainers outside of their team), a position coach, and anyone that can give me guidance and help me see things that I might otherwise miss. And I am saying that as a dad who happens to have about 40 years of experience of being around the game; if I was less familiar, I might seek out even more advice. Why would I cut off someone that I know and trust who might have an opinion that would be worthwhile considering? It would be stupid to not be completely thorough, and the honest truth is that Notre Dame is going to come out on top most of the time in these situations. It didn't work out this time, but I personally know of at least 2 other cases and situations in which it did and I'm sure that it happens all the time.

Your initial post that this man ought to be fired is completely ridiculous and borne out of selfishness that he didn't encourage the kid to go to ND. For all you know the coach has examined the situation and has determined in his mind that OU is better for a variety of reasons. If he can sway the kid that easily, the kid never really completely bought in to begin with. And furthermore, maybe the coach knows that the kid isn't a great fit for ND (for whatever reason).

Saying that a guy should be fired for expressing and sharing his opinion with a kid that he works with and mentors is completely selfish and ridiculous.