Just a quick comment in addition to the good info below

many college coaches are known to have a desired body type, club type, or recruit profile that they look for. Purdue will take good players from anywhere whereas other coaches really only want ECNL and GA players (we've attended camps where the ECNL and GA players were put on one field and the "others" got on the second field and rarely got a look). Tennessee is a program that "short girls" are always pushed towards because Brian Pensky (now at Florida State) did not "discriminate" against short girls the way some coaches do. But generally, the old trope of "Leo Messi is little" seems to hold - if you can play, you can probably find a fit.