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Not sure how much control you have over reffing by pmoose

but better reffing training would be my advice. I'm pretty laid back typically about the reffing. I can even tolerate a ref that doesn't call too much as long as it's going both ways. What has gotten me to be yelling at the refs is when the calls are clearly one-sided, or when a hard foul doesn't even get a call (let alone a card), or when yellow cards are handed out on minor fouls.

I have a couple of examples in the past year on this. One game, the scheduled ref did not show up and the kid line judge who was maybe 14 or 15 ended up being the main ref. I think he was also local to that soccer club and ended up being easily intimidated by the opposing coach. Our girls have never been hit so much and hard with very few calls. Plus, the barking from the opposing coach was getting the ref to call out of bound balls towards him even when they weren't. To be clear on this one, it wasn't the kid's fault - the game shouldn't have even been played, but when you drive 2+ hours to play, you'd rather get the game in.

Second one was from this past weekend. Guy looked like he somewhat knew what he was doing, but made some head-scratching calls. Gave one of our girls a yellow card when her and another girl ran into each other. I wouldn't have been bothered (much) if they had called the foul on her, but I thought there was no foul, and certainly no where close to a yellow. The guy missed multiple hand balls, including one in the box too.

I know this is going to sound funny after what I have written, but if you don't have it already, put together a parents' code of conduct. Also, not sure if there's already a ref evaluation process for coaches to provide feedback on how well a game was reffed, but that is something that is done in IN for the travel leagues.