Then do whatever you want. I have 6 kids and support my wife in her career and interests. That said if you don't want to do something and aren't encumbered by children enjoy some free time while you got it.
Apparently I was making a mountain out of a mole hill. I expressed my concerns about paying to fly me to a baby shower and she said she would be happy to go by herself.
Unless she's laying some elaborate trap I should be ok (that's mostly a joke, I'm pretty sure I know her well enough at this point that I was just making a big deal out of nothing.)
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qualifies for significant indulgence and time off purgatory. Just not as much as attending a baby shower and/or visiting Ann Arbor.
Time in hell (on earth) earns major time off in purgatory.
ANYTHING to avoid going to a baby shower! Just don't do it. Ever.
I plan on talking to her about it tonight. I'm not sure why she wants me to go anyway. She would not be alone as I believe her mother and sister are planning to go. I think it would be a waste of money for me to pay to fly to a baby shower.
Process after the Shower -
USC is a night game -
Go to the "SideTrack Bar" in Ypsilanti & watch the ND/USC game as long as You
can study the action at ND Stadium
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This is a Test by your beloved bride!!
She's trying to cut your damn balls off and keep them in her purse until you die. You are a man. You don't go to baby showers. Notre Dame getting crushed like a bug by USC has nothing to do with this.
That subject line is the description of the 9th Circle of Hell, led by tour guide, Mitch Albom.
How it should have gone:
Wife: Honey, Jenny is having a baby shower XYZ weekend
Wife: Let's go
You: I hate showers and have no interest in going.
That would have put her in the position of trying to convince you to do something. Instead, you're in a position of trying to convince her that you shouldn't have to.
My actual advice: If you want to go, go. If you don't want to go, don't go. But don't set the precedent now that your wife gets to make all decisions for you just because you want to please her. Of course you want to please her, as that's your job as her husband. But that road has to go both ways or you are going to be miserable. If you don't want to go, say "Listen, honey, I need to tell you something. I really don't want to go. Showers are not fun. Do you REALLY need me there?" You then do whatever she says. But at least you've made your point and it's clear you're "taking one for the team" and not just doing what is automatically expected.
He did show up to a wedding and fix the booze situation
So glad I'm single again and don't have to deal with such conflicts anymore. In my case it was the ex-nephew's birthday party which always coincided with the first or second Saturday of football season. Snooty ex-brother and sister-in-law did not deem guest entertainment in the form of televised sporting events especially football as proper.
I'm serious, I've never been asked to attend a baby shower. Nor would I ever attend one. I didn't even attend my own kid's baby showers. And there wasn't a single male in attendance.
No reason to get excited
kovac, he kindly spoke
There are many here among us
Who feel that wife is but a joke
But you and I, we've been through that
And this is not our fate
So let us not talk falsely now
The hour is getting late
Do not start your marriage with the expectation that the two of you are joined at the hip. Sit down and have a conversation about how you both feel about separate friends, separate interests, separate trips (hint: you should have all of them).
You married a grown adult woman who should be able to travel on her own to see people who are her friends, not yours. You paid this photographer friend and presumably thanked her for the fine job she did. Your obligations to her are met, on that front.
If you were both capable of doing (friend or whatever) things alone 9 days ago, you still are now.
That sounds more snarky than I intended, but unless there are issues with travel/social anxiety etc (which still doesn't mean you have to be joined at the hip, it means she needs professional help and support) then separate interests can and should continue.
shower, even one for their own kids. Nineteen years of marriage and three kids, and I've yet to go to one. Tell her to 'have fun' and go watch the game where you want.
where I get invited to them on a regular basis.
I'm stared at like a troll when I quickly insist that I will not be attending.
Worse, people are now trying to trick dudes into going by disguising them as BBQs or other such parties when, in fact, they plan on doing silly games and presents.
She's showing her true colors. You don't want to deal with these types of situations your entire life. It's best to jump ship early.
Is the sister (USC grad) hot? If so it's never to early to start laying the groundwork.
This is like a wedding gift from Brian Kelly. Head to Ann Arbor, which is actually a nice little college town, for a getaway with your new bride. Don't watch the game, don't track it on your phone, pretend that it doesn't even exist. Check the score only after you can be sure that it's over. If, by some miracle from on high, we win, you can always go back and watch it later.
out if you suck at cooking) and then calmly tell her that you won't be joining her at the baby shower. Don't make excuses, just tell her that there is no reason for you to attend such an event.
It's actually a great little city, and I enjoy going there very much.
You should not be expected to attend baby showers. The relatively recent trend of "couples showers" is a pox on humanity.
Why spend money on a plane ticket to go to an event I don't want to be at in the first place?
There's no way I'm spending the time and money to go to a baby shower that necessitates flying. For anyone. She can go if she wants, but I think a gift is sufficient. Furthermore, now would be the time to establish mutually agreed upon parameters in the category of "we don't have to do everything together."
Isn't that like a 3 hour drive to Ann Arbor? It would take you longer to fly.
This is insane. I try to find excuses to skip local baby showers. I cannot imagine buying a plane ticket to one. And I'm a girl.
Guys should not ever be obligated to attend baby showers. Or wedding showers. Or sprinkles.
I can't imagine flying anywhere for a baby shower unless the honoree was an immediate family member, and even then, it's not obligatory. I'm a girl, too. Lamb, stay home and watch the game.