You have a tough job. But in this case I would’ve left it up
by dulac89 (2022-01-24 15:19:48)
Edited on 2022-01-24 15:26:20

In reply to: What were you looking to have happen there?  posted by El Kabong


For the sole reason that all of the responses to it were appropriately calling it out for what it was

If the responses were agreeing and adding to his comments, that would be one thing. But since the comments were near universally critical, i think it sends a stronger statement to leave it up

I’ll be honest, I’ve changed the way that I think and speak in the last 15 years partly because of this board and hearing the perspectives of female posters. I appreciate the female posters that stuck around when this board was much more misogynistic and help to change it, and I think the board is better for it. Not perfect but definitely better

But you’re the boss So I totally get it if it’s easier to avoid the controversy in the first place


When people put up bad posts, I tend to take them down
by El Kabong  (2022-01-24 15:23:50)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

It's not a question of "avoid[ing] the controversy".

Mike's a good poster, but he made a mistake on this one. He didn't get a bad delete for it, I simply removed it.


OK but that’s not what you implied in your first response
by dulac89  (2022-01-24 15:29:36)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

You actually stated the controversy, “keep it up and get accused of contributing” or “take it down and stifling discussion.”

Again, it is not criticism, you have a hard job and threading that needle as a moderator is an imperfect science. I do think that in this case, it was such a perfect example of objectification, and the responses were so appropriate, that it actually would’ve been one of those salient lessons for those on the board for whom it isn’t so obvious


It was a rare misfire from an otherwise highly regarded...
by FL_Irish  (2022-01-24 15:35:44)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

...poster. Whatever value there is to be had in keeping it up as an example of what not to do is outweighed by the value in giving said poster a mulligan.

Frankly I'm just glad there seems to be near universal agreement that it's not the type of thing we want happening here.


That was my feeling.
by Revue Party  (2022-01-24 18:14:36)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

We're a long way from the oYo days.


You knew who you were then Girls were girls and men were men *
by Father Nieuwland  (2022-01-24 19:34:38)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post


I agree which is why I prefaced my response
by dulac89  (2022-01-24 16:04:16)     cannot delete  |  Edit  |  Return to Board  |  Ignore Poster   |   Highlight Poster  |   Reply to Post

That the downside would be that it is at his expense