For Bluengold07, on perceptions here of Brey and Kelly,
by Georgia Hog (2019-02-12 08:40:49)
Edited on 2019-02-12 10:21:51

these quotes, among many other things described by Chicos Bail Bonds and others, give some insight into why many of us are inclined to cut Brey more slack than Kelly:

Brey after the loss to Miami individual conversations with the team:
“The basic theme was that I love them and I love coaching them. We’re on our heels. We won on Saturday and got off to a good start down there and then it didn’t happen. It’s a matter of letting them know we’re going back to work and let’s keep investing. Just keep coming in and practicing. They’re going to get in the game and get experience.”

On drawing the line of nurturing and anger:
“It’s a fine line. I challenged them at halftime. We have really sharp guys. They are hard on themselves. I have to find ways to keep them moving and confident or repair confidence. It’s much more teaching.

“There is going to be some pain and we’re feeling some pain. I’ve tried to remind myself to teach and I can light them up when I have to, but I have to keep teaching. We have receptive guys.”

Brey on TJ Gibbs' struggles:
“I visited with all the guys individually as we were flying back the other night. He said he has to make shots. When a guy ties himself up in knots like that, the last thing I’m going to talk about is his shooting or that type of thing.

"You just try to take the pressure off of him and get him to enjoy the game. Each day is a clean slate."

Kyle McAlarney on his own suspension and his relationship with Brey:

"McAlarney: Coach Brey in my corner was everything. I can’t emphasize it enough. It’s not just him saying it either, it’s him flying to my house to spend a night with my parents and I when it all happened.

"It’s him speaking out against the administration and fighting for his players. He was a father-figure/educator through it all. He was there as a father figure/educator first, coach second. That’s Notre Dame, man. That’s why it’s different than other universities. His example of loyalty is what I spoke to about basketball coming second to him fulfilling his real duty — to graduate us all and send us away better than we came in.

“When he broke the news to the team that I was suspended, he cried. That’s just me, a kid on his team, being suspended. I didn’t die. I was fine; I was healthy. But he cried.”

Kelly after a 31-17 loss to USC (October 2011):
“You know, I generally — I’m falling on the sword nine out of 10 times,” Kelly said. “But I know what I’m doing on a bye week. I’ve had great success. I know what it looks like.”

“I’m certainly not going to go back and second-guess the way I’ve prepared over 21 years in a bye week. Sometimes there’s some accountability from everybody, coaches and players alike ... They didn’t play as well as they needed to play.”

Kelly also said he wasn’t pleased with QB Dayne Crist:
The next day, when a writer asked Kelly whether he was concerned about Crist's mental state, Kelly said, "No, I don't have to worry about it. He does."
But the coup de grâce came when Kelly indicted all his upperclassmen, demeaning the attitude and skills of players recruited by the coach before him:

"You can see the players that I recruited here," Kelly said Thursday. "You know who they are. We've had one class … that I've had my hand on. The other guys here are coming along. But it's a process. It can't happen overnight. They're getting there.
That included future NFL players like Manti Te’o and Kapron Lewis-Moore, both of whom tweeted their displeasure with Kelly’s comments, the Chicago Tribune reported.

Kelly blames loss in to NC State in a hurricane on Mustiphers's "atrocious" shotgun snaps:
Kelly dressed down Mustipher on the sidelines and after the game said this: "We're looking for wins, not improvement on one side of the ball or the other. Although, I was very pleased with our physicality, toughness and tackling. I'm just extremely disappointed in the offensive execution and lack of ability to manage the snapping of the football — which was atrocious as well."

From what I have seen from both coaches over many years following ND's football and basketball teams very closely, I would be absolutely thrilled to have Mike Brey coach my sons, and I absolutely would discourage them from playing for Brian Kelly.